image source: www.feelgrafix.com
It’s true: Marriage is no walk in the park. It’s a journey full of challenges, service and selflessness. But it is also a journey full of dreams, wonder and faith. It’s the kind of journey that I pray to never get tired travelling. It may be imperfect, yes, but in my heart, it’s always beautiful in its imperfections.
You know it, I don’t always “rock” my marriage. For example, when I’ve just given birth to our baby Trey, my life revolved around the newborn. The marriage was put at the backseat. Having a newborn and a five-year-old and trying to raise them the best way I know of actually left a little room for time with my husband. That’s just one story. I can go on and on sharing many other things that gobbled up almost every ounce of my energy leaving no time for Alex. So wrong I know.
My guiding light in my marriage is what the bible teaches– that marriage should be honored as the most important relationship in the family. Although I fail to do it at times, it’s the line that I want to live by.
Happily, every time I seem to lose track, my feet find their way back. Like how I’ve adjusted living to our ‘new normal’ (now being a family of four with a new baby, that is). I’m grooving my married life back again! Yes, that’s right! I can honestly say that we’re rocking it again!
It takes two to tango they say and I believe we’re both dancing and swaying our married life to the beat…well, most of the time, at least! He has his ways to keep the glow in our marriage, I have mine. What are my ways to keep the glow going?
I pray.
I am never ashamed to say that I am too dependent with the Lord. And the Lord is so sweet to me, so sweet the way He spoon-feeds me. I lift up everything to Him, especially my marriage. When I feel that I am not being the wife that I should be, I seek for His guidance. One of the things that I also always whisper to the Lord is my love for Alex. That it won’t deplete, that it will steadily grow. Every day, He shows me reasons why I should love my husband all the more.
I make my husband feel how proud I am being his wife.
My husband is the most caring man I know of (and more), and he knows how much I appreciate him for being the kind of person that he is!
I listen to his stories.
My husband is a corporate slave. He works very hard (and always hopeful to get promoted, hahaha)! While he is a career-oriented man, his wife here is always behind him, listening to his stories (even his work-related rants)! Proofs? I know how his office went by every single day and I know everyone in their department! My husband loves to talk about work even at home and I listen whole-heartedly! And because he always has the tendency to work overtime, while some say it’s NOT Okay to bring home work, I tell him this: “Bring home your work, let’s do it together at home!”
I am being *playful and funny.
Our home is a safe zone and everyone in it knows that (especially Kyle)! So in our little abode, it’s totally Okay to be your silly-self (like we can all laugh at each other’s inanity) and I am the promoter, of course! My playfulness does not end there. At night, I also do shower my husband with *playful kisses and touch! (You know what I mean, wives. I cannot dig dipper! The kids are awake! Hahaha)!
I make our home the best place there is for my family.
I also pray that the Lord blesses our home. That He helps me make it a sweet home for everyone. We may just be renting and moving to places while waiting for that perfect time to have our own, I pray that wherever our ‘home’ is, that it may be a place of refuge for all its members. I’m happy that my husband would trade being elsewhere just to be with me and the kids, just to be home.
My ways to keep our marriage glowing are so simple, yes? Simple yet enough to keep the glow glowing! It must be grace!