Moms, let’s talk about sharing today. How is your kid doing when it comes to sharing so far? My Kyle still doesn’t have a good grasp of the skill yet and so it is the lesson we are focusing on these days.
I talked to Kyle at home again and I asked him why he didn’t like to share his toy, and he said, “Mom, that was my favorite car…!” I asked him if he could offer to take turns next time but when he still said “no”, I felt his attachment with the toy. I didn’t want to break his heart so I told him that it’s okay to decline and choose not to share a particular toy but next time, he could offer an alternative such such as giving reasons for not sharing it or offering another toy, at least. He said yes to me but I know it will take time for him to master this skill.Sharing, I know, is something that needs to be constantly practiced at home, and in other places. Here are some of the things that we do/will be doing:
1. Expose him to the concept of sharing.
I know we have to read more books that teach the value of sharing to Kyle. Do you have any recommendations? We will hit the bookstores next week and look for some beautifully-illustrated books on sharing.
2. Make sharing fun.
So there, we are doing baby steps to teach the kid to share. I am hoping to see improvements in the coming days. How about you? How do you teach your kids to share?
Last week, I took my son to his cousin’s home to play. When his cousin (they are both of the same age, 4 that is) wanted to borrow his toy, he firmly said, “No, this is just mine.” His cousin cried. I tried to process Kyle but he still refused to share.That moment, I knew there’s a need to step up and instill some “sharing lessons” back home.
I talked to Kyle at home again and I asked him why he didn’t like to share his toy, and he said, “Mom, that was my favorite car…!” I asked him if he could offer to take turns next time but when he still said “no”, I felt his attachment with the toy. I didn’t want to break his heart so I told him that it’s okay to decline and choose not to share a particular toy but next time, he could offer an alternative such such as giving reasons for not sharing it or offering another toy, at least. He said yes to me but I know it will take time for him to master this skill.Sharing, I know, is something that needs to be constantly practiced at home, and in other places. Here are some of the things that we do/will be doing:
1. Expose him to the concept of sharing.
We have also started our simple role-playing activity at home. The boy laughed at us (me and his dad) while we were acting out (drastic measures, it is!haha). We asked him to do the role-play, too and he had so much fun acting out! We also model sharing whenever there is an opportunity to.
I know we have to read more books that teach the value of sharing to Kyle. Do you have any recommendations? We will hit the bookstores next week and look for some beautifully-illustrated books on sharing.
2. Make sharing fun.
I’ll have him practice sharing more often at home and will give him plenty of opportunities to practice the skill with other kids , too (Play rooms ring the bell!). I will also have him bring his Lego blocks to his cousin’s home next time so they could build together.
So there, we are doing baby steps to teach the kid to share. I am hoping to see improvements in the coming days. How about you? How do you teach your kids to share?
My eldest doesn’t have any problems about sharing, her toys, clothes, etc to her younger siblings. However, my second having a hard time to learn this. Patience is a virtue. You can’t teach your kid to share in a snap. 🙂